Getting a divorce may not be an easy decision, but getting your ex-wife back is even more difficult. It may prove to be challenging and you would have to keep your focus up to the very last detail. There are some things you can do to rekindle that relationship that you once had. For starters, you have to remember why you filed for a divorce in the first place. If she has divorced you because you are, for example, a hard drinker, then you have to make sure to stop drinking before even trying to get her back. In other words, you have to set an objective and make the necessary adjustments.
You have to change some things that you think may have triggered your desire to get divorced. If there were some misunderstandings between you and your partner, then sort your differences and settle your disputes before giving your partnership another try. There may be a lot of reasons behind the divorce; point being, you have to address all these things in order to deserve another chance.
You want to contact your ex, and you have children? You are lucky. You can use this opportunity to meet with your ex. You can use school gatherings such as the spring musicals, school plays, parent-teacher conferences, and the like, to get in touch with your child, and meet his mother as well.
If your ex-wife has siblings, you may be also be given a fortunate circumstance. If your ex-wife finds comfort in the company of her family, it is highly possible for her to listen to the things her siblings say. Building the trust again with her family may be challenging, but if you are able to achieve that, then the chances of you and your ex-wife getting back can be bigger.
You might think, "How would my brother-in-law or my sister-in-law help me get my ex back?" The answer is simple: Your ex-wife's family knows her better than you, having spent most of their lives together. They know what makes her cry, what makes her laugh, what makes her sad, and what makes her happy. Having all these information will help you a lot. You may even conspire with your siblings-in-law, and ask them to set you up.
While you are dating your ex-wife, you must always make her feel like it's her first date, all over again. Let her listen to your favorite song as a couple, watch your favorite movie together, have a good meal in a place that means something to the both of you. Make her feel that you have already learned from your experiences, and have grown so much since then. You yourself should also feel that your efforts are making sense, and that you deserve another chance, not just to inflate your ego, but because one person means the world to you.
During the process of getting your ex-wife back, you must bear in mind that there will always be trials, difficulties, and it may fail. You just have to have a strong heart and strong will to go through all the things you desire to do to win her back. You also have to be happy while making your ex-wife happy. It would be amazing for the both of you to realize that you would want to spend the rest of your life with no one else, but each other.